I have never been the "other" guy in a broken or dishonest relationship. I've certainly had an opportunity or two, but I turned them down pretty quickly.Here's the thing: I believe in karma. Big time. My mother also raised me with no shortage of Italian and Jewish guilt through my childhood. Combine a fear of a universal scale that balances itself in both good and bad, and a fear of my mother being disappointed in me? Bingo-bango! I ain't touching your relationship, friend. Even if you break up with that other guy, I'm still gonna feel weird about pursuing something with you. Does this make me a good guy, and mistresses/misters bad people? No. I won't even go that far. I certainly can understand the temptation that's involved when you're interested in someone who swears up and down that their relationship is in shambles and that they will be leaving it for you. But, I've also seen a lot of movies where the other girl or guy never ended up getting that person who promised them the moon on a string. Either way, I am not here to render judgment on these other women. I also am not here to say that only women get themselves into situations like this. Lord knows there are plenty of guys who do the same. All things being said, here's a look on the other side of the coin. Here are confessions from the other women on the outside of a relationship. Let's hear what they've got to say.
Beyond feminism, there's just a lack of respect for the woman involved.
Perhaps it's time to give into that awareness and free yourself.
Get out of it while you still can. Trust me.
Is power the only thing that you are feeling?
Are your feelings that deeply buried?
So he didn't even respect you enough to let you know that there was someone else? That doesn't bother you?
I'm guessing that the love of attention is stronger than the guilt you're experiencing?
You can most likely find a better place with someone else, you know.
Consider this the first step towards liberation.
Now's the best time to leave. Before you fall in, or it gets too complicated.
Only you can decide that you deserve better than that.
You ain't kidding!
Sure you can. Have you tried?
That's a very sad way to view yourself and your life.
Well, maybe in the meanwhile you can take a few grammar lessons.
Is it, though? Are you thinking all the way through what's going on?
That's a fair point. But maybe someone else deserves to be someone's also-ran. Maybe you deserve better.