Sex First, Questions Later: A Teenager's Coming Out Story

Sex First, Questions Later: A Teenager's Coming Out Story


Coming out have you overwhelmed? And you think therapy is really the solution? Really? Why, when all your life's queries can be easily crowd-sourced?

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Gailygrind reports on a 19-year old college student who, tormenting over his sexual identity, sought advice from his fellow Reddit users after having sex with his best male friend. He shares, in explicit detail, of what went down that night.  It started off with playing video games until they ditched the gaming consoles and began playing with each other.  To put it bluntly, his best friend went down on him, and he's openly talking about it. 111

"When he finished me I asked him to let me return the favor. Afterwards we kissed, and then he awkwardly said that he should leave and went home."

After the incident, he shares his conflicted emotions regarding "Danny" and his own sexuality.

"It’s crazy because I’ve never once felt attraction to a man before, never noticed guys in a sexual way at all, but now all I can think about is him."

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The scenario is all too familiar. After he texted "Danny" and didn't hear back, you can imagine all the agonized, uncertain thoughts going through his head. But take heart! When it's too difficult to directly confide in a friend, people can now reach out anonymously on social platforms. "Does anybody else that’s been in a situation like this have any advice to offer? What should I say to him? How can I salvage our friendship if it turns out that he doesn’t feel the same way as me? I’m looking for any general advice regarding sexuality and figuring yourself out as well."
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A few days later, after readers requested for an update, the student provided the latest information, but not before he expressed his gratitude for sharing their views and opinions.

"First I wanted to say thanks to everybody who commented, you all really helped me calm down and stop overthinking everything. I appreciate it a lot."

There is a happy ending of course.  After a period of reticence, he continues sharing with his readers the dialogue that resumed when Danny came over for another visit. 111

"He asked me if I was okay with working out our feelings together (read: having sex until we figure out how we feel) and I told him yes."

"We talked some more and discussed the possibility of a relationship. He said he feels like we know each other well enough that he wouldn’t feel like we were rushing in, and I agreed with him. He asked me to be his boyfriend, and I said yes!"

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When it comes to defining his sexuality, he does offer this:

"It kind of feels like the best time to be realizing it with the gay marriage ruling happening. Every time I think about it I feel giddy."

Despite some hurdles to total social acceptance, it is a much better time to be a gay youth in America. To find his entire post on Reddit, you can read the FULL ARTICLE here.

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